As women, caring for ourselves is nothing short of a revolutionary act.
Our culture rewards girls and women for being martyrs, pleasers, obligors, can’t-say-no-ers, perfectionists and self-LESS. Stop right there. What? When we break that word down, it literally means ‘having little or no concern for oneself.’ Whoa.
Do you see someone you know and love in this description? Do you see yourself?
At its worst, that sounds to me like a runaway train headed straight for depression, anxiety, a physical health crisis, chronic fatigue or at minimum, a boatload of resentment.
Is that what we are aiming for? Is that what we value? Is that WHO we are? And, furthermore, is that really what we want to teach our daughters and sons?
What if we decided to set that burden down, simply because we realized it was too heavy a load to carry?
What if by mothering ourselves, kindly tending to ourselves, we gave our daughters and sons permission to do the same? Could we help liberate them from the bondage of self-LESS-ness? What if our lives demonstrated a more whole-hearted way of living in which everyone’s needs mattered? We have the power to help set the stage for their future relationships in which both partners are expected and encouraged to fill their own cups…dare I say…first? Because, we all know we can’t pour from an empty cup.
What if, by doing so, we demonstrated our own worthiness, and that of EVERYONE ELSE?
What if practicing radical self-care could actually help us serve and love one another BETTER and free us up to use our time, talents and energy on endeavors that line up with our mission, values and life’s purpose? Do you know what yours is? We’ll explore that in another post.
Because a full cup…it runneth over…creating ripple effects into our families, friendship circles, neighborhoods, communities and the world. Us mamas? We are change agents. Never underestimate our power.
My name is Jessica, and I’m the creator of The Self-Care Mama. I wanted to create a space where we could tackle the meaty aspects of mind-body-spirit, radical self-care. I want to talk about worthiness, self-compassion, friendship, boundaries, exercise, creating opportunities for stillness, and so much more. This blog is part of my self-care journey. And, if you want to make it part of yours, then I am humbled and grateful for the opportunity to be of service.
Earlier, I asked about your life purpose. Like most of you, mine is currently under construction. But, this much I know: I am passionate about self-care and the essential and transformative nature of it for ALL of us. I have lived it from both sides. Who am I? Among many things, I am a Nurturer of Nurturers and I am excited for our journey ahead.
Come join me.