A Self-Care Revolution

As women, caring for ourselves is nothing short of a revolutionary act.

Our culture rewards girls and women for being martyrs, pleasers, obligors, can’t-say-no-ers, perfectionists and self-LESS. Stop right there. What? When we break that word down, it literally means ‘having little or no concern for oneself.’ Whoa.

Do you see someone you know and love in this description? Do you see yourself?

At its worst, that sounds to me like a runaway train headed straight for depression, anxiety, a physical health crisis, chronic fatigue or at minimum, a boatload of resentment.

Is that what we are aiming for? Is that what we value? Is that WHO we are? And, furthermore, is that really what we want to teach our daughters and sons?

What if we decided to set that burden down, simply because we realized it was too heavy a load to carry?

What if by mothering ourselves, kindly tending to ourselves, we gave our daughters and sons permission to do the same? Could we help liberate them from the bondage of self-LESS-ness? What if our lives demonstrated a more whole-hearted way of living in which everyone’s needs mattered? We have the power to help set the stage for their future relationships in which both partners are expected and encouraged to fill their own cups…dare I say…first? Because, we all know we can’t pour from an empty cup.

What if, by doing so, we demonstrated our own worthiness, and that of EVERYONE ELSE?

What if practicing radical self-care could actually help us serve and love one another BETTER and free us up to use our time, talents and energy on endeavors that line up with our mission, values and life’s purpose? Do you know what yours is? We’ll explore that in another post.

Because a full cup…it runneth over…creating ripple effects into our families, friendship circles, neighborhoods, communities and the world. Us mamas? We are change agents. Never underestimate our power.

My name is Jessica, and I’m the creator of The Self-Care Mama. I wanted to create a space where we could tackle the meaty aspects of mind-body-spirit, radical self-care. I want to talk about worthiness, self-compassion, friendship, boundaries, exercise, creating opportunities for stillness, and so much more. This blog is part of my self-care journey. And, if you want to make it part of yours, then I am humbled and grateful for the opportunity to be of service.

Earlier, I asked about your life purpose. Like most of you, mine is currently under construction. But, this much I know: I am passionate about self-care and the essential and transformative nature of it for ALL of us. I have lived it from both sides. Who am I? Among many things, I am a Nurturer of Nurturers and I am excited for our journey ahead.

Come join me.

32 thoughts on “A Self-Care Revolution”

  1. Jessica, Congratulations on your blog! It’s really refreshing to become aware of this importance of self care, especially for those of us who are Mamas everywhere. Your message is REAL and NURTURING. Thank you!!

  2. Jessica, congrats on your blog!! Self care is imperative for all beings!! I love your authentic voice!! Ty for sharing your light and love with us!

    1. Thank you, Heather. I am grateful for your constant support and for the light and love you share so freely with others!

  3. Hello Self Care Mama. I think this is a great subject to be talking about. I am 57 years old and still find it challenging to put “self care” first! I am a nurturer by nature and tend to give much if my time and care to others before or instead of to myself.
    I am learning every day to pay attention and listen to my body and my soul and create time and rituals that promote my own “self care”
    Thank you for sharing your thoughts and personal experiences. I love you Jess!

    1. Hi Lisa! I love rituals. Which ones do you find to be the most helpful? Sometimes I think the smallest ones, done consistently, make the most impact. One small self-care ritual I do each night is prep my coffee maker for the next morning, so all I have to do is press one button and it’s ready. It seems simple, but taking that 2 extra minutes at the end of a long day sets a positive tone for start of the next day. I view it as a loving act toward myself amidst the morning chaos of the littles.

    2. I can relate to this,I have always put everyone’s needs above mine.I do self care more than I ever have but I still need to be doing more.Jessica,you do a better job at it than I did when I was raising you and your sister.We owe it to ourselves..I plan on continuing to work on this! The time is now.Love you and so happy you got this blog going.

      1. We certainly do deserve to treat ourselves with care and compassion. We are all works in progress when it comes to self-care. Some days I get it right, some days I don’t. It’s been helpful for me to approach myself without judgement when I wander off track (as we all do); I just make a point to find my way again and come back to the tools that I know work for me. Love you too, Mama!

  4. Love this!! Congrats! I can’t wait to read every post 🙂 This is sooooo needed in our culture right now and you are just the right woman to bring it to light. You got this! Cheers 🙂

    1. Thank you so much, Heather! I have had all this self-care stuff rattling around in my head for some time. It feels great to put it out there and if I can help someone along the way, all the better!

  5. You are an inspiration! Can’t wait to read more! Your post reminded me of a day the kids were all over me and I was trying to take to 5 minuets to myself and the kids would not relent. My husband came to my aide and told the children “your mother is a person too. She has needs. Let her be!” (Love him). Sometimes I forget that I do have needs. I think I run on mama autopilot. A checklist of things for the children for my husband the house the bills the groceries the laundry. Some days I’m on my list and others I’m not. Thank you Jess for starting a conversation all us mamas can heal through having! Looking forward to being on this journey with you?

    1. I love that your husband gets it! Yes – we are people too, and I think it is easy to lose sight of that along the way as we respond to everyone else’s needs each day. Our needs matter too and we deserve to live a healthy, happy and wholehearted life!

  6. Thank you! It is so refreshing to read positive, useful and thought-provoking words of wisdom. I love that you have reminded me the 2 minutes I take to prepare the coffee for the next day is a self-care ritual. I have done it for years and feel even better about it now. 🙂 I am very serious and consistent about meditating every day. I find centering myself at twice a day is one of the most productive and healing self-care rituals I have ever done. Looking forward to your next blog. You are an inspiration to us all.

    1. Thanks, Corrine! That is so great that you take time to be still each day. I think that when we are still, we know things. Deep truths emerge for me in the stillness, and it also resets my nervous system. I also think sometimes its the little things we do consistently rather than the big things we do occasionally, that make more of an impact. Thank you for following along!

  7. Jessica you started a beautiful blog. I agree we need to find more time to nurture our selves but it seems the older I get (51) the more my mind and body changes especially with menopause. I look forward to reading more of your blog in the near future but I’m really not sure how to find no blogs I just clicked on this because you had it on Facebook.

    1. Hi Sheri! Thank you so much! Yes, our needs sure do change throughout our lives and we are faced with different challenges that sometimes require us to be more proactive and vigilant about our self care. If you click on the bottom, right hand corner of my website, there is a link where you can enter your email address and subscribe. My blog postings will be delivered straight to your Inbox. 🙂

  8. Atta girl, J! You knocked this one out of the park, as usual… Thank you for always being willing to bring up the ‘hard’ stuff. Thank you for giving us moms permission to make our needs a priority and ‘recharge’ our batteries without guilt. Also, this brings up an awareness among moms of all ages and seasons of their lives. Having this awareness may hopefully nudge us all into reaching out to those who are struggling through the journey… I know you have reached out and helped me more than once!

    1. That is my hope, Anna – that women of all ages and stages can see themselves (and one another) in this blog and feel supported by it. Thank YOU for doing the good work you do each and everyday!

  9. What a strong start to your blog! Love all the topics you’re going to be covering. Can’t wait to see your next post!

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